Relationship Privacy Policy

As the semester continues, the Pussy Power Hour has really been heating up on the topic front. This week, along with body hair, we discussed the issue of looking at your significant other's cell phone or emails without their permission. LK and I are both in serious relationships, and I felt the topic was a significant one for many of our listeners as well. 

With the availability of information at our fingertips, it can be tempting to see what our partner is doing in his or her off-time. He could be chatting with an ex, or chatting up someone he met on Facebook. He could be exchanging naughty pictures. You just don't know. Until you do. And when you do know, you can't unknow that sort of thing.

The reason the topic came to me is because I overheard a couple arguing over the weekend. It sounded like the guy in the relationship allows his girlfriend to look through his phone. I guess they have had multiple issues with fidelity in the last seven months of being together, which right there is a red flag. It sounded like the fight was about her finding another sent message to a random girl on Craigslist So, the question is: is it ok for your significant other to go through your phone with or without your permission?

I'm not suggesting that we turn a blind eye to our partners, pretending that the possibility of infidelity doesn't exist. Far from it. I'm merely suggesting that there are other, better ways to determine whether your partner is being faithful.

I mean if you both allow it, then obviously that’s fine. But it is an invasion of privacy. I personally don’t think it is ok to do it behind their back. I would just ask them if you have some sort of suspicion, based upon his or her reaction, you should be able to tell one way or another if something is up. I'd rather be accused of being "crazy" than accused of invading my partner's privacy. I think even now, in the age of the Internet, people deserve their privacy. If he's talking about me to another woman? Maybe he needs to vent to a female ear. If he's talking about a hot chick to a buddy via Facebook? He's being human.

And frankly, I don't need to know about it. Planting seeds of doubt is hard to turn back from.

I say communication is key, and honesty is the best policy. So talk to your partner and listen to one another, and things, if they’re meant to be, should go smoothly from there.

By Ali Uro-May

Shave It Or Save It!?

A Brief History of the Art of Shaving.

The art of removing body hair began long long ago. Records on ancient cave walls depict prehistoric people using clamshells, flint knives, and even sharks teeth to shave unwanted hair. Circular solid gold or copper razors can be found as far back as the 4^th millennium BC in Egyptian tombs.

In the 4^th century BC Alexander The Great encouraged his men to shave so enemies couldn’t grab their beards during melees.

In 1847, William Henson invented the hoe-shaped razor. In 1895, King Camp Gillette, a traveling salesman, combined this shape with the idea of a disposable double-edged blade. He wanted to create a product one would need, use, throw away, and then need again (a true capitalist). And thus, the disposable razor was born.

For more history check out this awesome article. 

WHY WOMENSHAVE:

Underarms: In 1915,  “Harpers Bazaar” an extremely popular ad magazine,  published an add for a sleeveless dress; the first dress of it's kinds. However, in order to wear it, the publishers first decree that women must see to “the removal of objectionable hair” and by the early 1920’s underarm hair was so last decade.

Legs: The 1940’s rolled around and hemlines become short, tights became sheerer, and the rise of pin-ups, such as Betty Grable, began shaving their legs hairs. A trend that caught on quickly. 

Vagina:For hundreds of years, bikini wax has been a common practice of Muslim women. The night before the wedding, brides-to-be removed all of their body hair, yes all of it. Some women stick with the practice throughout their marriage and some Muslim men joined in. 

And thus was born the social norm of becoming a naked mole rat upon puberty. Personally, I don’t care about body hair. I am a woman and should not be made to feel bad about hair on my body, especially because there are no proven health benefits to shaving. The only reason women shave is because an add in a magazine in 1915 told us to. And you know who wrote that add? A man!  As is so typical of our patriarchal infrastructure, one man, almost 100 years ago,  decided that all women should shave their underarms because he found it, “objectionable”. Well I object to men telling us what to do with our bodies! Don’t get me wrong I’m not all natural but I do go days without shaving the pits and, candidly speaking, I can’t remember the last time I shaved my legs. Ladies, can I let you in on a little secret? Men really do not care if you’re shaven down there! And if they do, they don't deserve to see it in the first place! Acceptance is sexy and so are lovely lady locks. So shave it or save it, it's up to you!

Miley's Wrecking Us All!

We have an awesome show planned for next Monday, October 14th. Ali-Cat and LK will be discussing the ever prominent Miley Cyrus, breaking down the million and one reasons she is a horrible role model for young girls and how the industry itself is actually heavily to blame. This will launch us into a discussion about Billboard Top 100 and why these types of artists garner so much fame and attention. We will go deeper into whether or not Miley's song, "Wrecking Ball",which is actually the No. 1 song on the Billboard Top 100 currently, is indeed a hit. Miley is undoubtedly the most talked about celebrity today, but we want to dig deeper into how it has unfortunately become "Miley's World" and we are determined to take it back, dammit! Also, we will continue to feature brand new female artists from all over the world. Definitely going to be covering genres from pop to soul to funk, that we think should be known about. These up and coming women in the music industry are definitely forces to be reckoned with. Basically we will be discussing the good, the bad, and the "ratchet" b*tches.

Tune into ksfsmedia.net/radio every monday at 3pm! If you like what you hear give us a call (415) 338-1532, and like us on facebook and Instagram (alicatlkpph).


By Ali Uro-May

Emily Bear and Bright Girls

I don't know about you, but Ali and I had a blast on our last show. If you weren't able to tune in, here is a little catch-you-up. On monday October 7th, Ali-Cat and I showcased a young girl by the name of Emily Bear. Bear is a 12 year old concert pianist and composer who has been regarded as a child prodigy. The Illinois native began her career at the ripe age of 3 years old when she sat down at the piano and composed her first piece. Let me repeat that, THREE YEARS OLD. She has since had a booming career performing on Ellen, at Carnegie Hall, and the Hollywood Bowl. She caught the attention of Quincy Jones and has been under his wing ever since. Below is Emily performing "Q", which we featured on our show.

Emily's story launched us into our first conversation regarding the way young girl's perceive praise and how this affects us in our adult life. As I was fiddling around the internet I came across this extremely interesting article titled "The Problem With Bright Girls" written by Heidi Grant and published in the Healthy Living section of the Huffington Post. Now, I was a bright 5th grader ( I don't know what has happened since) and the article revealed a shocking truth I had never thought about. Heidi revealed that because girls tend to mature faster than boys, they pick up on behavioral rewards differently. When bright girls pick up new tasks quickly and are rewarded for being smart, or good at a specific subject, they tend to perceive that talent as fixed, something that they have or do not have. This is opposed to boys who are often told "if they would just try harder they would get it" or "if you would just pay attention you could do it". This creates problems when girls face tasks that do not come easily to them, they often tend to give up and assume they just don't have the ability to do it, even though they would succeed if the task was given a little more effort. This is most common in the STEM subjects (science, technology, mathematics, and engineering) and carries over into our adult lives. Women must constantly work almost twice as hard to be perceived as competent as men and when you're own worst enemy is yourself, you're working against a whole lot of oppression. But enough of my blabbering just check out the article for yourself!